WHAT KIND OF LIFE ARE YOUr beliefs creating?

As I work with clients, I am constantly reminded of the importance of beliefs in the creation of life experiences.  If you are currently experiencing anything in any area of your life that is not to your satisfaction, it is very likely that you have a hidden (or not-so-hidden) belief that is at the root of this experience. 

So basically, what I am saying is that what we believe creates what we experience.  And of course you have heard this said before.  But, as I teach these concepts, what ultimately happens for me is they become clearer and clearer in my own life and the lives of my clients.  They are translated, through experience, from “truisms”--which we understand logically-- to truths--which we understand on an emotional/spiritual level.

But, let’s go deeper into what this means for us as we are working on attracting the circumstances we want into our lives.  Beliefs are made up of a number of things, mostly other people’s ideas and what they--parents, teachers, media, society, et cetera--have ingrained in us.  And what we have concluded from other people’s actions and treatment of us, particularly as children.  Some of our beliefs support us and some do not.  When it comes to beliefs, there is no such thing as a true belief or a false belief.

Are Republicans right or are Democrats right?  Depends on who you ask.  So a belief has a nature that defies true or false.  The best way a belief can be categorized is in terms of its supportive or non-supportive nature.  So if you’re going to have beliefs, you may as well have the kind that support you.  Right?

So how do you know what your beliefs are?  Well, let’s go back to my definition.  Any situation that has manifested more than once in your life has its roots in a belief.  For example, if Susie has had an abusive husband and she currently has an abusive boyfriend, Susie has a creating belief.  What is the belief that Susie has?  Well, it’s probably “I deserve to be mistreated

Let’s try another example.  Let’s say you, or someone you know has this experience:  each month starts out great.  She gets her paycheck.  She’s got the money to go out and have fun.  Her bills get paid.  Then, come the end of the month, she’s scraping by.  Life isn’t so fun for a while. Do you know anyone who’s ever had this experience? 

So, what’s her belief?  Well, it can be a number of things, all pretty closely related.  “There’s never enough,” or “Money runs out,” or “Nothing good sticks around.”  Which one is our friend’s belief, to the letter, we can’t know, because we’re not her.  But if anyone reading this identified with this experience, that person, upon looking at all the alternatives, would be able to pick the one that most accurately fits her belief.

So, the first step in shifting a belief is to be aware of it, as it really is.  Get as close to the truth of it as you can.  You will feel it when you hit one that’s right on.  In order to discover what your beliefs are, ask yourself what’s going on in your life now.  Look at both positive and negative.  If you are making over a hundred thousand dollars a year, you have a belief that that is possible, and you feel you are worth about that much for the work you do each year. 

Take a look at your finances, that is one of the major indicators of your beliefs.  If you scrape by, you definitely have a belief somewhere that is creating that.  So unmask your beliefs.  Hold them up to the light.  Get how silly it is, when you create your own beliefs, to hold onto beliefs that hold you back when you say you want to go forward.
 
The next step is, as your beliefs begin to show themselves to you, get them out in the open. Write them down.  Maybe even post them on your wall.  Do you have a problem with that?  Isn’t it negative toput unsupportive beliefs up on the wall?  That’s endorsing them, isn’t it?  That’s like saying a negative affirmation.  Oh my God, what will that do?   

Well, since you’ve been living by these beliefs for this long, what harm would it do to have them up on your wall until you decide you don’t need them anymore?  I did this...and, wow!  I got to the point that I knew what belief I was coming from whenever I was spinning on the outer edges of the circle. 

And I got to the place where I was able to laugh at them. Think about it: if a belief is creating an experience you do not wish to have, it is probably based on some irrational fear, some crazy idea you cooked up when you were three.  And as such, they’re funny.  When you’re forty-five and still living by them...well, they’re funny in a sad kind of way.  But nonetheless, there is nothing that compares to the lightness that comes from shedding a belief, just choosing to let it go because you’re finally neutral enough on it that you can laugh, and that you can realize you’ve truly outgrown it and you don’t need it for safety anymore.

Having done this, you are now ready to really notice and be conscious of the belief whenever it comes up.  In my next article, I will discuss in more detail this next step in neutralizing—and breaking free of--the limiting belief.

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